♥ Daily Blog: 11PM

Words being said are nothing unless there are actions to back them up.

If one wants to be trusted with words, he or she must have actions in the past that prove that he or she can be trusted.

Though I love him, I don't know anymore.

I want to be able to talk to him about anything and talk to him as if he's my best friend, but I'm not his best friend, and thus, it's best if I just keep it in.

I don't want to be afraid to say anything that would cause me to lose what I have right now.

It's sad....bc clearly, i love him more. if he loves me more, i shouldn't be afraid to tell him anything. but no, i have to watch what i say now...what not to say...

and so, i've decided to put limits. unless i'm his best friend too, i have to watch what i say.

it's funny though...he tells me to tell him things, but as soon as i say something, he gets upset and i'm afraid that my last ray of hope for anything will be pulled any second.

idk anymore. i'll be honest with him, of course, but...maybe i'll just keep quiet.

I wouldn't say that he's a liar, but...he told me so many things...and out of all those things, only a few of them are fulfilled and proven.

Actions show a lot. What one does communicates more clearly than one's words. If one wants people to believe his or her words, he or she should speak with his or her actions. As this continues consistently, people will sometimes don't need certain things to be proven with actions, but rather trust the person to do what he or she says.

What we do or fail to do says something. Communication does not occur through words alone. Communication is any behavior which someone else interprets as bearing a message. We speak with our posture, our gestures, our face, our eyes, our eyebrows. We speak with a sigh, with a touch, with a tone, with a shoulder shrug, with the distance we put between us and another person, with almost any action we take. About 65% or more of all our communication is nonverbal. Nonverbal messages are more powerful than verbal messages.

If we send two messages which contradict each other, people will have a tendency to believe the nonverbal over the verbal. For instance, if I insist that I believe what you are telling me, but my mouth is tight, my head is tilted, and there is a deep frown on my brow, you will probably conclude that I don’t believe you at all. Actions really do speak louder than words! It's important to be aware of our actions, and to make sure that what we do is consistent with what we say.

For example, a husband may assure his wife that he loves her, yet he is often late coming home from work and he seldom calls to inform her. When she questions him, he insists that he had to work late, or run an errand, or see a friend, or something. She explains to him that it is important for her to know when he will be late so she can plan dinner accordingly. But he fails to call again and again, and meal after meal is spoiled. While his words say, “I love you,” his actions say, “I couldn’t care less about your wishes or your feelings.” And she believes the actions above the words. Her human tendency is to become indignant, then resentful, and eventually indifferent to his wishes and his feelings. Any hope of intimacy they might have cherished is dashed on the rocks of bickering and arguing.

Basically, sometimes one can say whatever he or she wants, but if his or her actions don't back them up, there is no meaning to that person. One should take action to prove a point better than just saying it or promising it.

Saying something can only go to a certain extent while taking action from the words show that one's saying can be louder and more powerful than anything. If there's someone one strongly believes in, talking about it is one thing, but doing something about it will actually make a difference.

Referring to relationships, promising to do something and getting it done means that no matter how much one promises to do something, if the action is performed, it is more valuable.
People will believe actions rather than just words.

If one really wants someone to believe that person, why complain about it...unless he or she cannnot show it?

This also correlates to "Never judge a book by its cover."

We look at what they do, no matter how nice they look. Although...one's presentation does show a lot. But...actions show MORE and ACCURACY.

Be a "doer" and don't be a "gonna."

Sometimes, however, actions may not speak louder than words, but they definitely do prove things better. As I've written earlier, if one wants to be trusted, prove it. As it becomes consistent, people can eventually let a few things slide, trusting that what one says is true. Like the saying, "A picture is worth a thousand words," an actions shows that someone is genuine. There will be more impact in doing than just saying. Walk the walk and not just talk the talk.


I have shown him my feelings through the things I do, the words I give him, the evidence to back those words up. I've shown him that I love him unconditionally by staying by his side regardless of the times he hurt me so much. Though I do not enjoy them, inside my heart I believed that he will come around...

Though I've written him letters full of words, at the same time, I've given him evidence...both at once...not just one alone...

And now...I'm going to do another action.

He wants to be happy, that's all he wants. I told him I want him to be happy....and happy he shall be. I will limit myself with what I say, for I will only say the good things....

happy he shall be.

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