♥Daily Blog: The Lie

Lie.

I saw the "I" in Lie.

See it?

When you lie to someone you love, this is the message you're giving them:

"I lie because I do not care about your feelings.
I would rather lie to you than to be honest.
I am afraid the truth might hurt you.
What I want is more important than what we want.
What I want is more important than what you want.
I am afraid of you.
I do not trust you.
I do not respect you.
I am more important than you are.
I am more important than we are together."

When you lie with words, you also lie with actions.
Actions speak louder than words. If you say you'll be home by six, you must be home at six or call by six with alteration of plans.
If not, your word is worth nothing.

All relationships in life work out best if they are based upon a foundation of honesty, trust, respect, and loyalty.

People are mistaken if they think: I found a spouse and now I can be myself and do what I want and they will love me anyway.

The relationship is not strong if two people come together to live their own lives without regard to the values of the other person in their life.

You protect the person you love. You want the best for that person. You want that person to be his/her best. You make sure he/she is happy. You make sure you think of that person and how he/she feel before you do anything. And it is even better still if the person do the same for you.

When you love someone and he/she love you, he/she will do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.
If the relationship doesn't work, whose fault is it?
The person who felt what he/she wanted, was more important than the relationship.

Is telling a lie the best interest of the relationship? What will that person do when he/she finds out the truth?
Will he/she take it harder knowing you lied in the first place? Will the person you lie to trust or respect you anymore?
If you love someone, you do not want to hurt him/her. You would do anything to make him/her happy.
Why would you lie and risk losing the trust you have built up in your relationship with anyone?

If you find something else that is more important to you than that person, then you risk that person walking out of your life and finding someone who is worthy of the total commitment he/she want to have with you.

Loving someone truly does not say that you will lie to the person. Nor does it say that you will do whatever you want.

Love, honor, and cherish.

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I don't want to break up with him....i still love him very much so.

But my feelings don't seem to matter to him. He always argued with me that he loves me and so forth. But if that's the case, why am i not feeling it?

Everytime when I try to say something, he pushes me away.

It's true. If you love someone, you love that person with flaws and all.

But I just can' t deal with the things he did. If who he is consists of flirting/being with other girls and keeping things from me, then...I don't think i can do this.

He's right...that in time, you find out more about the other person. I found out that who he was was fake. He eats healthy food at that time to impress me, to show me that he does care about how I feel.
He made Valentine's day special to show that he does want me happy.

All of that is in the past now. No longer is the person back then standing before me right now.

I can't deal with the things he did...for I am deadly hurt. Yet, he doesn't even write to me, tell me that he's sorry...

Then again, maybe he isn't sorry. And that's why, I'm still hurt.

The reason why I want him to break up with me is because i KNOW that the good things won't come again.

He won't change...

The things he did are just too much....especially when he's not sorry for them.

I learned that....if someone really really loves you, he/she will really want a second chance.

All he's been telling me all along is that..."You're always snooping around."

To my disadvantage...I can't find the words to explain.

I never wanted to "snoop"
He's not going to see that he had forced me to snoop.

If I had never found out through someone....woulld I have known what he did all along?

He would just continue to lie to me...and i would be living a lie...

A happiness that is a lie...